The importance of decluttering; life beyond sock-folding

Well hello, I’m back. I’ve had a long hiatus from the blog side of things. A season of quiet.

I struggle with the noise of the internet. With more people saying more things just to try and shout the loudest and get heard and build their business and sell more of whatever they’re selling. It’s not my style. I want to say something because I’ve got something to say.

So while the blog has stayed quiet, my mind has been active, with thoughts, dreams, ideas.

There’s so much to learn when we dial down the noise (some noise and chaos is just part of life, I get that, but much is there by choice, or because we let it creep it unintentionally). When we get quiet enough, we begin to hear our own inner voice and connect with our true selves. And there’s so much the true self has to tell us. That we don’t have to be productive to have worth. That we don’t have to have a job title to have worth. That doing “nothing” in the eyes of the world doesn’t make it a waste of time. That building relationships – with our kids, our families, our friends, our communities – is the richest, but often most undervalued work, we can do. In many ways this has been a richer season of growth and development for me than any season, however difficult I’ve gone through before.

I initially thought my desire to remain quiet for a season was a problem, that it felt like giving up. But I have not given up. Far from it. There’s so much I’ve learnt from this season that I want to teach. I just want to say it for the right reasons. In the right way. At the right time.

I’m still passionate about simplifying. About getting rid of all the clutter that crowds us out and weighs us down. There’s been a recent spike in interest in decluttering thanks to Marie Kondo, and several people have asked what I think of her methods. She’s got some helpful tips to get people started on their decluttering journey, and these may be just the motivation you need. However, there’s a greater purpose to decluttering than pretty homes and nicely folded socks, and sometimes this purpose seems to get forgotten amidst the obsession with just how to fold your undies. I am about that greater purpose. About the life that you can discover when you remove the clutter that is crowding out that gold.

I’m going to keep on telling this story, keep encouraging you to remove what shouldn’t be there, so that what remains brings you life, joy, energy, hope, connection, love.

It’s good to be back xx

Some thoughts on busyness…

One of the most common responses to the question, “How are you?” is, “Busy.” Why is busyness the new normal? Why do we so easily over schedule ourselves?

Laziness: It’s somewhat easier to just say yes to everything that comes along, than to be thoughtful and intentional about how we fill our days.

FOMO: Social media and our global society exposes us to so many more available options with which to fill our time, and we can’t bear to miss out on what others are up to. So we overcommit and stretch ourselves beyond the limit.

Fear of silence: We are so addicted to noise, busyness and distraction, that it’s a foreign and uncomfortable concept to find ourselves with unfilled, unscheduled time and space in our day. Quiet The Mind is a fantastic illustrated guide to the art of silence and meditation (it’s short and sweet, for the busy among you).

Busyness gives us a sense of purpose and significance: “I’m busy, therefore I am”. If our schedule isn’t bursting at the seams, we can find ourselves feeling lost and insignificant.

And we’re transferring this busyness disease to our children. 

We are scheduling their every spare moment of free time with extra curricular activities, play dates and homework. They hardly have a minute to just be kids. To let their creativity develop freely, and unhindered by their schedule. I highly recommend the book Simplicity Parenting for more great thoughts on this.

So let’s be thoughtful about how we fill our days.

Let’s not fear silence, and space, but embrace it, sit with it, and learn from it.

Let’s allow time and space to embrace the present, to be spontaneous, creative, and fully alive.

 This post was originally published on ihearthome.